Wednesday, August 31, 2016


Yes, I am in full-time ministry.
Yes, I know people look to me as a Christ-like example.
Yes, I love Jesus.
Yes, I am aware of the things I post, listen to and watch because of the reasons listed above. BUT...

Yes, I went to the movies and watched the rated "R" movie Bad Moms

What?!!! I know right?.  I get it. Some of you will disagree with me, oppose me, or even feel disappointed by me but hear me out.
I didn't walk into the wrong movie theatre on accident. I wasn't peer pressured by Bad Moms into seeing it. I intentionally wanted to see it...from the moment I saw the previews I was drawn to it. And I wasn't alone. Mom after mom had seen it, was making plans to see it, or was on their way to see it again.


Because every freaking woman I know (whether you admit it or not) could relate to the lead character in wanting to say, "I quit".

Was the movie inappropriate? yes. Was it disturbing in a lot of ways yes. BUT...

For 2 hours I watched what I secretly wanted to do:
-bring store bought donut holes to the school bake sale
-tell my kids that mom was done and they needed to make their own breakfast
-share with other moms all the flaws of my kids without feeling the judgement of my parenting

The world was telling us what God already had.


The difference between the world and God is
-the world wants us to simply find peace in our imperfections
-while God knows its impossible to find peace in our imperfections without finding peace in His perfections.

As a Jew from birth born into the Israel tribe of Benjamin and a member of the religous leaders, Pharisees, Paul understood what it meant to follow the thousands of rules that went along with his religion. The Pharisees were the judgemental moms on steroids. So when he became a follower of Christ, we see througout the book of Philippians his excitment of being set free from the rules to have a personal relationship with God through Jesus.

"But I press on the posess that perfection for which Jesus first possesed me. No dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing, forgetting the past and looking foward to what lies ahead. I press on to reach the end of the race and recieve the heavenly prize for which God, thorugh Jesus is calling us." Philippians 3:12-14

Paul had not achieved what he wanted to do or who he wanted to be (can you relate?). But he wasn't discouraged by it, overwhelmed because of it, or burdened over it.
Failing meant pressing on.
Imperfection meant pressing on.
Falling short meant pressing on.

What Bad Moms did for moms is what Jesus wants to do for all moms, wives, women, people everywhere: Release us from these feelings, thoughts, and guilt of not being perfect. But know we are loved by perfection.



Its not about being perfect but finding feedom in the perfection of Christ.

We don't presson for our perfection, we press on to find our identity in His. all my mommas who are tired, overwhelmed and sick of living up to the "perfect pinterest" life and just want to quit...Please hang in there sweet friend.

Jesus didn't die for you because you were perfect, He died for you because you weren't!!

Lets live this life of a BAD MOM because we serve a GREAT GOD!

Wednesday, June 8, 2016

OU Softball WCWS

As you watch the sooner softball team tonight there will be something you will notice both the fans and players doing each time the Sooners come off the field before they bat.

Everyone's hands will be raised.


It's biblical.

One the greatest stories of teamwork in the midst of battle is found in Exodus 17...

“Moses commanded Joshua, “Choose some men to go out and fight the army of Amalek for us. Tomorrow, I will stand at the top of the hill, holding the staff of God in my hand.” So Joshua did what Moses had commanded and fought the army of Amalek. Meanwhile, Moses, Aaron, and Hur climbed to the top of a nearby hill. As long as Moses held up the staff in his hand, the Israelites had the advantage. But whenever he dropped his hand, the Amalekites gained the advantage. Moses’ arms soon became so tired he could no longer hold them up. So Aaron and Hur found a stone for him to sit on. Then they stood on each side of Moses, holding up his hands. So his hands held steady until sunset. As a result, Joshua overwhelmed the army of Amalek in battle.”  Exodus‬ ‭17:9-13‬ ‭‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

Joshua needed Moses. Moses needed Aaron and Hur. They all needed God.

Although we know this is not a real war, sports teaches and prepares is for real life. Whether on the softball field or in life...we all need each other and most importantly God!! We can do nothing on our own-even win a national championship. So as you watch (a hopefully cheer), you will see  sport imitating life inspired by Gods Word! Boomer Sooner!!

Friday, April 29, 2016

Let's be real...

Ok…so I am going to share a few things about myself with you all today:
1)      I am a 3 time state champion in track
2)      I just finished running in the OKC Marathon this past weekend
3)      Right this minute my house is spotless
4)      My kids all have field trips and projects going on and we are done with them and all permission slips are in
5)      This year has been my greatest year of fruitful ministry since I started in FCA 13 years ago

Now…before you start cursing me and thinking bad thoughts about me, I have just given you the Facebook version, the surface version of every single one of these. Now lets move past the surface to the reality of these….

1)      These state championships were because I was on a relay with 3 really fast girls. I was not even close to winning anything in an individual race
2)      The same goes for the Marathon. I ran the Marathon as relay with 5 others girls because there is no way in the world I would ever put myself through running 26 miles…to be honest that sounds like my version of hellJ (Serious props to all marathon runners, you are rock stars) 
3)      I ask for no presents from my family throughout the year so I can have Marciela come and clean my house each month. We love Marciella and feel like she is a part of our family. I think I would give up a kid before I would give up Marciella. She just came yesterday and we were gone all last night hence it is still clean. I have no doubt my kids will come home today and see it is clean and think “we must get this house back to normal asap.”
4)      You know the moms that are on top of everything? The type “A” moms that if it wasn’t for them, nothing would get done? I have sought out that mom in each one of my kids classes and have begged them to take me under their wing and help this little sad mess of a crazy mom. They have each taken pity on me and send me the lifesaving text messages like
“The history project is due this Friday and you will need a tri-fold board, do you need me to pick you up one?”
“The permission form is due today, do you want me to forge your name and turn it in for you?”
“Did you remember to get the skittles for the Math project?”
5)      I have sought professional counseling twice: Pattye, who specialized in Time management counseling (I didn’t even know this was a thing until my boss signed me up for it, which was his way of saying you have got to get your act together)
And the latest was Mareen, a professional counselor who specializes in counseling those in full time ministry. She is the perfect balance of sweet, bake you cookies Grandma and no filter, tell you how it is grandma. Both, God used to help me be the best I can possibly be in this calling of full time ministry-in and outside of my home.
A couple of things I want you to learn from this…
1)      Jesus said, “Look beneath the surface so you can judge correctly.” John 7:24. We try so hard to live on the surface for others and then just look at the surface of others. Relationships are not built on the surface, but by doing life with others sharing in all of each other’s messiness. God is a relational God and we see that through His Son Jesus. Does he want anything less from our relationships with each other? We are the body of Christ, which basically means “imperfect people doing this life with the help of a perfect God and other imperfect people.”
2)      That leads me to this point: WE NEED EACH OTHER. As much as we would love to show the world that we are strong enough to do everything on our own, God’s strength is shown through our weakness. We get God’s strength when we show humility, realizing this life is not about us, but about Him! We need those women who will pour life into us through their teaching ability, pour life into us through their generosity, and pour life into us through their hospitality.  God teaches us in Ecclesiastes 4:9, “Two are better than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.” God has placed so many women in my path to make me the mom, wife, Bible teacher, FCA leader He wants me to be. It takes a village, or in my case a whole state to do all that God has called me to do.
Let’s do this life together, You, me and Jesus! ….I’m in for your messiness if you are in for mineJ

Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Dealing with those that make us Hard-working Christians?

I have nicknames for all my kids. I call Cale my heart, Chloe my joy, Case my light, Cruz my hope... All things that they have taught me or bring into my life etc.

This was Chloe and I’s conversation last week
C: “Why do you call Cale your heart?”
Me: “Because he is the one that made me a mom”
C: “Well, I am the one who makes you a hard-working mom”

I love her so much but she is my queen of one-liners and is completely telling the truthJ

Do you have that person in your life that makes you a hard-working Christian? They are just not easy to love. You want to act non-christian to them and say non-christian things to them or about them.
-maybe a student of yours
-maybe your mother or mother-in-law
-maybe a parent
-maybe a child
-maybe a frienemy

We all have them! They can make our lives miserable. So how do we deal with those that make life hard work? 

“A mob quickly formed against Paul and Silas, and the city officials ordered them stripped and beaten with wooden rods. There were severely beaten, and then they were thrown into prison. The jailer was ordered to make sure they didn’t escape. So the jailer put them into the inner dungeon and clamped their feet in the stocks. Around midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening.”

There was an earthquake and all the doors flew open and the chains were broken.

“The jailer woke up to see the doors wide open. He assumed the prisoners escaped, so he drew his sword to kill himself. But Paul Shouted, “Stop! Don’t kill yourself! We are all here!’…the jailer said, “Sirs, what must I do to be saved?” Acts 16:22-29

I know you are thinking, “there is no way in…..I can start singing hymns and praying with this person.” (Just me?:))

The answer isn’t what they did, but who their focus was on. It wasn’t on the jailer, who locked them up and most likely took part in the beatings, it was on Jesus. They weren’t focused on the beating of their body, but the raised body of Jesus. They weren’t focused on their pain physically, but on the one that saved them spiritually. They weren’t focused on the enemy that put them there, but the God that could get them out.

We see what honest to goodness faith in the one True God looks like in this story and we can all experience it. The encouraging thing is when we do, like Paul and Silas everybody is watching and/or listening. That is when we get to rejoice because what the enemy meant to drive us over the edge is what God uses to make lost people found!

Saturday, September 12, 2015

An Open Letter from a Coach's wife

I have been a part of a coaches family my entire life, first as a coach’s daughter and for the past 17 years, a coach’s wife.  I feel like there are some things people outside this coaching world  need to know about what its like living the lifestyle inside the coaching world. It may be shocking, offensive, or entertaining but it will all be truth.

1) Sports is our Livelihood, but it is NOT our Life.
Yes, sports is how we make a living, but we do not eat, sleep, breathe, or want to talk about it 24-7. It is always funny to me that people find the oddest times to talk about last nights, last  weeks, or  last years game: Bathroom, church pew, vacation. Nobody, even a coach, wants to talk about the 4th quarter play call while they are in the urinal. Sports is not our life, and it shouldn’t be yours either!!!

2) For a coach’s family there is often time sacrifices for team success.
My husband loves this game and works so freaking hard at being the best he can be so that the team can be the best they can be. The watching film on weekends and the 4 nights a week at the field can lead to days the kids and I don’t see our husband/dad. Yet, people can see him for 2 hours on a Friday night and complain publicly, but have no idea what coaches sacrifice privately. Believe it or not…they want to win more than you do!

3) My husband’s job depends solely on what 14-18 year old kids decide to do.
My husband and his staff have to prepare 40 teenagers to play together as one unit despite what might be going on at home, in the classroom, or with the girlfriend. I have people tell me all the time how frustrated they are with their moody teenagers because they can’t get their one kid to clean their rooms, be respectful, or come home at curfew. Yet we expect coaches, somehow, to get perfection out of these teenagers on the field that some parents can’t get at home. It really should be considered more of miracle working than coaching.

4) Coach’s job: focus on the team not an individual
As a parent myself, I completely understand the love for your children. And our job, as parents is to watch, cheer, and encourage your kid. But the quickest way to bring down a team is focus on one individual, even if it’s your wonderful, needs the ball every time, be the first 300 lb quarterback, child. You may not like every call the coaches make, but just know this: it’s with the team, the whole team, in mind.

5) Coaching families don’t have a lot of close friends.
Coaches have so many walls put up when it comes to relationships because people can’t separate personal life from the professional one. We have to be guarded now because we have been burned before. People want to be friends until their child sits the bench. People want to be friends until their child gets disciplined. People want to be friends until we aren’t winning anymore. Professional coaching can lead to personal loneliness.

6) Coaches are harder on themselves than you could ever be
I have been around coaches my entire life, professionally and personally. And I have never met one that wasn’t harder on themselves during a loss than anyone else. They stew over missed calls. They lose sleep over personnel changes. They watch play after play on film thinking what they could have done differently.  There is no email, phone call, or personal attack that makes a coach think “oh, I hadn’t thought about that, thanks for bringing that to my attention”, but I do know what it does make them think but I can’t write that because we love Jesus.

7) My husband cant hear anything you say from the stands, but his family can.
There is a reason that me and my kids have had to move our seats to the very top row, so we can’t hear what people say behind us. I understand sports is an emotional game but lets spread the emotion. If you are going to yell from the stands at my husband for a bad play call, I better hear you yell at your kid for missing the tackle. We are an equal opportunity team sport.

8) Coach’s wives are the best secret keepers ever
Whatever conversation you have with me in hopes that I will share with my husband will NEVER get to him! The coach’s wife is often treated like a side door into the coaches office. No, I don’t know what my husband is going to do about play time. No, I don’t know how my husband is going to handle your child missing practice. No, I don’t know why the freshman are playing more than the upperclassmen. No, I don’t know why parents aren’t aloud in the locker room on game day. And guess what? I am not going to ask him either…He’s not even going to know we had this conversation.

9) Coaching is a Calling
My husband makes $0.43 an hour for his coaching duties so we know he loves what He does because it’s not for the money. As followers of Christ, our jobs are not given to us by man but by God. As coaches we may think athletic directors, parents, or administration hold our jobs in the palms of their hands, but the truth is God in control of our path because we have submitted our calling. There are tough losses, tough seasons, and tough jobs. We may get fired from one but believe God will lead us to a different one. We know when things go good it's because of God and when things go bad, we will be ok because we have God.

10) Team is Family and Family is Team
WE believe this with everything in us. This is why we call our family Team Roberts and why we believe the team is an extension of our family. We love these kids and know that are own children really have 40 big brothers. We view coaching as a calling and the team as a family. There are no two things that will put us on our knees in prayer more than football season and family. It is every coaches heaven  that players, coaches, parents, and administration would work together to show love and respect to each other out of love and respect for God.

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Emotional Attached to God: Study of Psalms

Ok, so I am just gonna lay it out there...I am an emotional being. Sometimes I try to play it off as passionate, but lets be real ladies: I am emotional!
I am emotional about my husband. I am emotional about my kids. I am emotional about my job. I emotional about my husband's job.  I am emotional about my sisters, parents, neices, nephews, friends, and while we are just putting it all out there, I am emotional about every military "come home video",  walk-on football players getting scholarships, and every celebrity video rendition of "how great thou art". I don't half hearted do anything....I am emotional about everything.
And for the longest time, I thought this was such a negative quality of mine. I would try so hard not to do the "emotional girl" thing. Be the tough athlete, competitor type. And it doesn't help when you have the stereotypical emotional comments that we girls get:
"She must have her monthly visitor today"
"Stop making emotional deisions like a girl"
"There's no crying in baseball"

I set out to figure this whole emotional thing out...and ladies, I am super excited about what I am learning. In search of finding out who we are, we must search for the one who created us: God.
Ladies, we are emotional beings! We were created this way by our creator. But guess what? So is God.  God's word teaches us that we were created in His image. We are the emotional being of God.

Hurray!! We are not going crazy! We are not losing it every time our child starts a new school year or when they come home for the summer:)

BUT,  we have to understand that having emotions is not wrong, but when our emotions have us it is

Because we are women and we are emotional, we can become emotional attached to anything that moves and even then somethings that don't.
-It's the reason that our feelings get hurt when we don't get invited with a group of friends...we are emotional attached to friends.
-It's the reason we get so frustrated at our husbands when they don't meet our mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional needs every day....we are emotional attached to our husbands.
-It's the reason we make sure we are at our children's every need protecting them from anything that might hurt them physical, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally...we are emotionally attached to our kids.
-It's the reason why we can cry over fictional characters when the stupid writers with stupid ideas kills one of them off (not bitter at all)...we are emotional attached to tv.

God created us emotional people so that we can be emotionally attached to an emotional God.

Now, I am not saying we cant be emotional attached to people. I am saying that because we are so emotionally attached to people, this can often lead to unmet, unrealisic expectations from people that we should be expecting from God.

Our husbands were never meant to meet our spiritual needs....Jesus is.
Our children were never meant to meet our emotional needs...Jesus is.
Our friends were never meant to meet our mental needs....Jesus is.

Our relationships shouldn't quench our thirsty needs, but should be a living water overflow of our relationship with God.

Emotions are not our weakness, but our vehicle strength to God.

So how do we do this? How do we become emotionally attached to God? What does that look like?
And because I love studying people of the bible, I asked "Who is the most emotional character of the bible?" And without another thought....I knew it was DAvid. The entire book of Psalms is dedicated to every emotion David poured out to God: joy, sadnesss, feelings of betrayal, brokeness, shame, feelings of being overwhelmed etc.
In this study, I have learned that David wrote 73 of the 150 Psalms and 13 of them are directily related to a certain issue he was facing. Will you join me over the next few weeks as week look at all the different emotions David had and what it looks like to be emotionally attached to God?

We will be learning from David's stories so that we can get through ours!!

Tuesday, October 7, 2014

God sees you hear him?

It's really ironic to read my last post in light of our present circumstances. I am truly a living example that when God teaches you a lesson in his Word, we are tested on it in the World.

We have been chosen

In the past 8 weeks we have went from being a family of 5 to a family of 7. We have a 5 year old little boy we are trying to adopt from Foster care and an 18 year old Senior football player from my husband's team who has lost both of his parents who are now a part of Team Roberts. We call them the Robert's twins since they came to us at about the same time. Is it crazy?...yep! Is it loud?...of course! Do I sometimes sit on my bathroom floor with a locked door?...Maybe.  Is it overwhelming?...sometimes.

An Overwhelming life calls for an overwhelming God

I have been studying the book of Nehemiah and the lessons keep coming...

"'Things are not going well for those who returned to the providence of Judah. They are in great trouble and disgrace. The wall of Jerusalem has been torn down, and the gates have been destroyed by fire."' When I heard this, I sat down and wept. In fact for days I mourned, fasted, and prayed to the God of heaven.
       'Oh Lord, God of heaven, the great and awesome God who keeps his covenant
        of unfailing love with those who love him and obey his commands, listen to my
        prayer! Look down and see me praying at night and day for your people Israel.
        I confess that we have sinned against you. Yes, even my own family and I have
        sinned! We have sinned terribly by not obeying your commands, decrees, and
        regulations that you gave us through your servant Moses......vs. 10 the people
        you rescued by your great power  and strong hand are your servants. O Lord, please
        hear my prayer! Listen to the prayers of those of us who delight in honoring you.
        Please grant me success today.....'
In those days I was the king's cup-bearer." Nehemiah 1

Nehemiah was overwhelmed with the destruction that had happened to the city of God's people...He was blessed with a burden. Allowing your heart to break for the things that break the heart of God is never pleasant, but it is powerful. Chris and I were witnessing the destruction of something else that belonged to God...the families of these two boys. We prayed. We cried. We broke. But the overwhelming feeling of doing something wasn't nearly as bad as the overwhelming feeling of NOT.
But What?
We are only a football coach and FCA Staff...."Yes, and Nehemiah was just a cup holder."
How can we fulfill what they have lost?..."You can't. I can"
Do we have the space, the resources, the energy, the time..."You have what they need: A family"
Are you choosing us for the rebuilding of these kids' walls?..."If you are willing, I will be working"'

In just 52 days, a cup holder named Nehemiah and a group of helpers, successfully completed the task God had placed on his heart to do. It wasn't easy. People tried to stop them, discourage them, and mock them, but they weren't deterred, they were determined. Each person simply just built the part of the wall that was in front of their house. And so can we...

We don't have to go to Africa to change the world, just build up what's right outside (or inside) yours. Being a world changer is not easy, but it is worth it. You can change the world by changing your corner of it.
Maybe you show love to someone that just seems've changed the world.
Maybe you serve someone who is not like've changed the world.
Maybe you tell someone that Jesus loves've changed the world.
Maybe you open your home to a foster've changed the world
Maybe you start a ministry that helps abused've changed the world

 Just know when God calls you 3 things will happen
1) It will require Obedience from YOU(Nehemiah 1)
2) Expect Opposition from the WORLD (Nehemiah 4 and 6)
3) Know the Outcome will always be because of GOD ("When our enemies and the surrounding nations heard about it, they were frightened and humiliated. They realized this work had been done with the help of our God." Nehemiah 6:16)
The world saw Nehemiah as a simple cup holder. He saw himself as wall builder. God saw him as a world changer.

God sees you hear him?